Saturday, October 29, 2011

Highlights and more

Our little town of eagleville totally rocked out this year. We finished the season undefeated last night and begin play offs next week.   Blake got in some awesome tackles and it was fun to hear his name called out from the speakers.  It was a close game 19-20 and the crowds roared the whole game. It was one of those happy moments that I wanted to stand still. It was also senior night.  All the senior players, cheerleaders, band members and such walk out to greet their parents. They leave a special message. I wasn't the only one crying when I saw big huge football players grab their mamas and hug them so tight. I love our school and feels so blessed to be a part of it.

We had a crazy fun pep rally at school before the game. It was a glow in the dark pep rally. At one point I looked up to see both my boys in the middle of the gym participating in a battle of the brothers "teach me how to duggy" dance!  I would have expected this from Andrew but to see Blake blew my socks off! After the shock wore off I started yelling and screaming....go solomon's!!! It was so fun to be a part of their school day.


Adoption updates:
 We haven't heard anything from the boys and I believe I had false hope to think I would but I still hoped for that. Many people have stated that this is a bump in our path and to keep going. This was only a test. We have had so many comments like...be patience,  keep praying the right child will come, they just were not the right ones for you and lots of others. I realize the intentions are good and I respect and love that we have so much support but right now all six of us are not comfortable with it. We have been very patience in fact it has been 17 months and lots of money and required lots of patience and faith.    We are not being impatient we are mentally and physically relaxing and rebuilding. This is why we didn't want to foster as a family. We felt safe with the risk involved with this case and it didn't turn out so for now we are taking some time and when we are all comfortable we will or we might revisit the process. Throughout this process we have prayed about many many cases and heard about even more. This one was different. We know the Lord was involved in this case and for whatever reason we were meant to be a part of this case we may never know but we feel for the mental health of our family we have to take some time off. We may take a few weeks, months or longer and we really have to be ok with the fact that some of our family members may not be ok with revisiting this ever and if that is the case we will understand.  We will continue to pray about these decision and know that the Lord knows our hearts.  I'm sure if a stork brought us a little one we would all rejoice but for now this is what we have decided to do.  Our worker, Amanda, has been great and said we can update our home study when we are comfortable and she is not pushing us. We are being very prayerful. We understand the process and in order to have a domestic adoption we are completely aware that people change their minds or other situations arise so because of that  we have to make sure we are all six comfortable. Our four children are a huge part of this process and they need to feel comfortable and ready and Steve and I do as well.  If we didn't have children already this would still be hard but in a different way but because of them we have to make decisions as a group and for some of our children this has been very difficult.   I know this is our business and I don't have to share it but I feel that so many of you have participated with us in so much of this process that I want you to know.
We are thankful for the things we have learned this far and continue to learn. We feel your love and prayers. We know the Lord is watching over us. I have felt His love and tender mercies in so many ways. I am so thankful.

2 comments:

Mike & Lila Family said...

congrats to the footballers! What an accomplishment. I am also proud of all the hard work and dedication that they have put into their team.
adoption. thank you for your well spoken words on how you feel about what is going on. I have been there (and have also probably been there to say insensitive things to someone else too for that matter, lol)and remember the feeling of needing to vent/report but not so much need the (well intentioned) advice. :) I know, no matter wether you choose to stick with adoption or to go on without, you will make the right decision as a family. I hope everyone else understands that need to have peace in your life. God bless.

Jennifer and Clay said...

Dear Gretchen and Solomon family...I completely understand. We fostered when we had no children, and it was hard in a different way (like you said)...but I really cannot imagine the heartache that you and all of your kids went through last week. Not only are you grieving, but you have to watch them grieve, and it probably hurts twice as much. Sending gentle, healing thoughts and prayers to all of you this holiday season.