After much discussion we have finally decided that when our listing expired to not relist. It has really been a hard decision for all of us. It almost feels like giving up a little bit on a dream. BUT...keeping my sanity is important so we are going to wait. The problem is I am not raising newborns any more. Raising our family on the land was what we always wanted. The last time I looked my oldest child is 15! It takes around a year to build a house (give or take). If we don't start building our house now we really aren't going to be raising our family in our house on the land. We talked with Blake about this...we had the full discussion and even the full disagreement with him present!!! He needed to be in on this decision too. So my thoughts have changed lately a lot. I have decided to simplify. Selling our home or trying to sell our home while finishing up my last year of college is not a very simple way to live! Here's what has brought us to this decision...
watching my brother in law and sister in law be without a job for almost a year has been heart wrenching. I realized really we have so much. Our house is fine. We have enough of what we need!
Being with my family while my Dad has been so so sick this year has taught me that it really doesn't matter where we are raising our kids but how we are raising our kids.
And last we have a close friend/family that recently lost his job as well. Not only has he lost his job but his whole family-this has been so hard on my kids mostly. But the thing I have learned the most from this to cling tight to my family and to hold them a little more and especially to Steve. Because when the kids are grown regardless where we live now...he's what's left! My family unit is far too important to let something like a house/job/car/money get in the way.
What I really want to do is really be happy where I am instead of "waiting till we get there" to be happy!!
This post was probably way too much information but it sure is good therapy.
BTW..I still can't find the spell check button. I updated the blogger a couple of weeks ago and there is no spell check any more...if anyone knows please tell me!
8 comments:
Thanks for this. I have to remind myself of these things every few weeks. We are blessed and fortunate and it is how we raise and not necessarily where. Although at times I would like to be somewhere else raising my kids I am glad for the things we DO have now and believe it is all for a reason.
Perfectly said!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and perspective on this. I can relate to many of your thoughts and dreams, which is the main reason we are making some big changes in the next few months. I do agree with you about simplifying your life and enjoying today with your kids. I think our kids will remember and appreciate a non-stressed, *happy* mom more than living on land and in your dream home.
Amen. You have wonderful insight and perspective.
You are wiser than you know. Good girl. Just my two cents.
Gretchen Solomon ~ you are a wise woman ~ great knowledge packed into your 36 years!! Thank you for sharing these important truths. As a grandmother I am still trying to learn these things. Thanks again! May your blessings be in abundance!
this all makes complete sense! you are so wise to have come to this conclusion for the house but look at all the other things that came along with it?! what a blessing :). I hope you will feel confident that you are just where you are supposed to be, no rush. ;) (there's always time for the grandkids to be on the land!) i love you. i am totally in support of your decision. xoxo
I think that is the smartest thing! Your bro in law and I thought the same thing but we didn't want to say anything because everyone spends there time and money how they feel is right and what is right for you might not be right for us. It seemed like getting out to the land was the most important thing, and when it is you make priorities accordingly. With this decision how do you feel? Do you feel at peace and more at ease?
The land is still yours. Keep making your memories on the land. WE were looking at homes with land and MK said she DOES NOT WANT LAND! She does not want to do anymore yard work than she already does. LOL, come to think of it. Bill doesn't do yard work either. I'm lucky to get him to mow the yard! and that would be another job for me! Um.... I don't think so. Hey, it was good commenting here because I think it made up my mind on what to do as far as houses! LOL
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